Whether you are homeschooling your ADHD kids at home or not, these ideas can help you on your educational journey.
My kids range from mildly willing to extremely rebellious when it comes to doing their work.
Homeschooling during COVID made me realize a lot of their challenges and see them on a daily basis.
Even as a parent and a teacher for 20 plus years, I made some big discoveries about how my kids learn and the ways in which they struggle to complete certain tasks.
As your homeschool are you making realizations about how difficult some things are for your kids?
Maybe some of these will work for your kiddos.
ADHD Accommodations at Home
Both of my kids have 504’s at school with many accommodations that are helpful for them in that setting.
But being at home is totally different.
We can not replicate the routine and natural social consequences of school.
But, thankfully, we can also allow for many things that could never happen at school.
Most school days there are three of us on a computer in separate rooms of the house for the bulk of the morning. During breaks from my teaching day, I am checking in on my kids to make sure they are doing their work.
And, whenever possible I am close by as they are completing assignments. Proximity works well for my kids who get easily distracted, especially when they are on a screen.
Share work out loud
Another way my kids stay on task is by having them read their work out loud as they complete it. Perhaps they are auditory learners or it just adds another “sense” into the mix. This sounds a bit weird, but boy, does it work.
Both kids read their math problems, science questions, and language passages – all out loud as they complete the work. It’s a bit of a running monologue that would not work in a class full of 30 kids, but at home it’s great!
Be Your Kiddo’s Scribe
If you have a kid who has trouble writing, sit and write their ideas down for them. It is amazing to me how much easier my younger son completes his written work when I act as his scribe. We also use voice typing on the computer. Both of these have saved us hours of tears and frustration.
Do the work with them.
My oldest hates math and has anxiety before starting any new assignment. So I sit with my mini wipe board and do the problems as he does them. This works wonders for just getting him started and realizing the work is not that hard, after all.
Listen to music.
Both of my kids play instruments and love to listen to different kinds of music. They can choose instrumental music and listen with headphones while working. I make sure they choose a long playlist on YouTube so they are not constantly distracted looking for new songs.
Use a Timer
Timers are a godsend around here — but I am adding a twist. My younger son’s slow processing speed really is a hindrance. So, I give him a reasonable amount of time on the timer to complete an assignment. Then if he finishes his work with time to spare, the leftover minutes get added to his game time that day… it’s not a bribe so much as a motivator to keep working!
Accept Partial Completion
Only complete half of the work… we have resorted to this a few times. Sometimes my kids get a full page of math or tons of questions and it just feels like too much. So we draw a line midway down the page and just complete half. We may go back to finish it later and sometimes we don’t.
Laughter is the Best Medicine
Take laugh breaks!! We have been watching the Simpsons (from season 1!) and some of our favorite comedians on YouTube for laughter breaks… it really works!!!!! Laughter has so many benefits like boosting the immune system, releasing endorphins and lowering stress hormones.
Spend Time with a Pet
Snuggle with a pet!! If you have a pet, getting a good snuggle in can calm and rejuvenate your struggling homeschooler. Getting cats was one of the best decisions we’ve made as a family.
Relationship is the Most Important Thing
And last, but certainly not least… Prioritize your relationship with your kids over any work. If you find yourself doing too much forcing or arguing, just stop and pick up the next day. This is a very small amount of time in the big scheme of things and not a time to be spent fighting with your precious kiddos.
Prioritizing Connection Over Work
We learned a lot over the past year, that prioritizing connection is key.
Emotional health is very important.
Keep asking yourself, How do I want to have spent all this time with my children?
Well, that’s an easy one to answer:
- Reading aloud, doing jigsaw puzzles, and lots of creative projects with my kids.
- Connecting virtually with grandparents, sharing what we can, like showing the wacky ways we are getting all the energy out.
- Watching every Marvel movie (in the correct order.)
- Spending slow days together and evaluating how we’ll do things differently when things get back to “normal”.
- Being patient with my kids in the midst of all these ups and downs.
Homeschooling can be tiring!
First and foremost, give yourself a break. Mama’s need time to rest and recharge. Build this time into your day. Even 10 minutes on a daily basis can be so beneficial.
Create a routine: Routines are so incredibly invaluable to serve as mini stress releases during our days, a moment kids can count on — adults too!
We begin school work by 9am, have daily walks after lunch, independent leisure time (see below) in the afternoon, and daily screen time from 4pm to 6 pm. We also have sporadic read alouds throughout the day which serve to quiet us all down and connect for a bit.
Find new ways to burn off steam
Allowing the kids to let off steam can be a huge relief for everyone. It can be tricky, but not impossible, when we’re inside a lot. Building block cities, having dance parties, and letting the kids take over the living room for a massive fort building project can be doable.
Creating an obstacle course can take days of planning, executing, and perfecting. We’ve been using our rolling scooter to create a course throughout the entire first floor of our home. Rugs have been rolled up, furniture moved, etc… but it does make for hours of energy burning.
Institute independent leisure time.
This is a tradition we have enjoyed during every long break from school since my kids were about 3 and 5. Basically it fulfills my need for some quiet time and has taught my kids to play by themselves (a wonderful skill to cultivate). We have time each day where we are relegated to our own space in the house – alone and without a screen. When my kids were little it would last for about 15 minutes and now they have worked up to over an hour.
Helpful tips to make it work: Its great to have a timer or clock with each child so they know how much time is left. This prevents calls of, “How much time left, Mom?” Also, save a few special items to be used only during this time — we loved audio stories, like Sparkle Stories.
Need some more tips for ADHD homeschooling ???
My fellow ADHD mama friend and author, Katherine Quie has some great ideas in her latest blog post. Check out 5 more ideas for getting ADHD kids through school work. While you are there, did you know I was interviewed on Katherine’s podcast, too? Check it out HERE.
I’d love to hear how you are shaping your days, what’s working for you and your kids. Join us over on Instagram for some daily inspiration.
P. S. Being at home makes it easy for my kids to take their supplements… vitamins are not a cure for any virus, but they do go a long way in boosting our immune system so we can more effectively fight off illnesses. I’ve added more vitamins D and C to our daily routine and we’re trying out a new probiotic.