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ADHD Summer Survival Plans

I’ve written about our summer routine before, and while that post still is relevant and very much how I think about planning summer for my two tween boys, some things have changed.

My boys are getting older, they’ll turn 14 (a freshman!) and 16 (a junior!!) this summer, their interests are changing and so is my parenting. I’ve learned a lot over the years (and I am still learning) about how best to parent their ADHD to bring more peace and connection to our days.

So here is how I am planning a summer for two tweens with ADHD.

Scroll down for the new addition of ADHD Teens and Summer Screens!

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Planning an ADHD summer bucket list should be collaborative.

Getting my kids input on their schedules, summer or not, is key. It makes sense that the older my kids get, the more they can be in charge of how they spend their time.  

Our summer bucket list is full of ideas like:

  • Hike through a local forest preserve.
  • Attend the FREE Online#LifeskillsNow Camp.
  • Take a cooking class online.
  • Play with fun stuff outside, like our Trac Ball and our light-up Foxtail.
  • Go to a U-pick farm to pick fruits and/or veggies.
  • Ride bikes with the family.
  • Visit a few Little Free Libraries in neighboring towns.
  • Take a Python coding class online.
  • Have a Marvel movie festival.(Watch them in their intended order.)
  • Play with squirt guns in the backyard.
  • Build a fort in the backyard.
  • Watch the entire Stranger Things Series.
  • Make a picnic lunch and find a new spot to enjoy it.
  • Sleep in a tent in the yard.
  • Keep a nature journal of our hikes(probably more me, than them!).
  • Bake cookies for neighbors.
  • Project a movie on the garage door. 
  • Rejoin the local arboretum and take advantage of its events. 
  • Visit libraries in a neighboring town.
  • Listen to audio books as a family.
  • Visit a war plane “graveyard” two hours away.

Related: We’re taking this awesome free online camp: #LifeSkillsNow

Create a daily summer routine

This is what we do during the first week of summer!

It make sense to include some structure in a summer schedule for an ADHD child. I find that even the slightest bit of structure can make a world of difference. Kids thrive on routine, no matter what time of year it is. Here’s what we do to add structure to our summer days:

  • Our bedtime is still early( 9:30-ish), like during the school year. My kids get up early, no matter what time they go to bed. For my kids, as we’ve learned over the years, sleep is one of the things that is so important to their overall wellbeing. So, when I prioritize it, everything else works better.  Sleep is so vital for their ADHD brains.  
  • Independent leisure time. We all need a break from each other in the summer – especially on the days we have nothing planned.  I set our timer for 60 minutes and my kids entertain themselves in their rooms. They read or listen to music(no screens). This is super vital when we’re spending a lot of time at home. **As they have gotten older, my kids naturally do this, as they want to be alone more and spend less time with me. But this was a game changer when they were younger!**
  • My boys still have their daily and weekly chores. They get more opportunities to do extra chores for money in the summer, too.
  • Academic help : As a teacher, I know how real “Summer Slide” is. In the past, we’ve practiced math facts, written in a journal, listened to Story of the World, and read Life Of Fred Language Books. Generally this happens for about 20 to 30 minutes on weekdays. Note about teens: If this is a source of fighting, do not do it.  I repeat, do not force this.  (Ask me how I know? ; P )You can hire a tutor to take the pressure off you, if your child really needs the extra help. My teenager finds math extremely difficult, so I am offering the help, only if he wants. Once school starts in the fall, they’ll be lots of opportunities to get free tutoring. 
  • Screen time is limited. It’s easy for the empty hours of summer to get filled up with screens. My kids used to get about 30 minutes a day of screen time(those were the days!), but as they get older, this will have to be more flexible as the phone is a communication tool for friends and work. I’m okay with using a phone for music, social texting or a relaxation app, but will keep the mindless, passive videos and games to no more than two hours a day. (See more on managing screens below)
  • We have a few traditions that happen weekly. My kids know what to expect, they look forward to it and it makes planning super easy.  Kid Dinner Night(more on that below!), Family Movie Friday, and Library on Sunday are three of our non-negotiables
  • My boys have an interest in cooking and preparing meals, so they are in charge of one dinner a week. They help me plan, prepare and serve the meal, as well as help with clean up. The emphasis is on building real life skills. We pull from our list of favorite meals for an ADHD Diet. We love Kids Cook Real Food classes – my youngest has been through the entire series and loves to cook!
  • Put yourself (I mean you mama!)in the routine. It is vital as parents of kids with special needs, that you find breaks for yourself.  I desperately need time to myself to be quiet and think. I have a “No one downstairs until 8 am” rule . I get up around 6:30, so I have the time I need.

Maybe its just because I crave a routine, but summer runs smoother when we all can get into a daily groove . This is not to say that from time to time we don’t waiver – bedtimes are later for special outings, a family movie night adds to the screen time minutes, we may get asked to do something special and rush to make it happen, etc.

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Learn a new skill together.

Even before our Shelter in Place experience, we have loved taking online classes as a family. It’s a great way to model the use of a screen for something other than playing games or watching YouTube Videos.  

Udemy is a great platform for classes of all sorts! We are all taking an art class together, so it’s a plus for me, as well!

Last summer, my kids took Spanish from Muzzy, too. Their fun cartoon format makes language learning easy for preschool thru high school. I sat in on the sessions and learn a bit of Spanish, myself.

One of the best classes we took last summer was our Kids Cook Real Food Class from Katie Kimball of Kitchen Stewardship. I’ve talked about her awesome cookbooks, and her classes are just as valuable.  

I am really looking forward to revisiting this! The class helped my kids become more independent in the kitchen. We  took the intermediate class where they learned valuable skills like how to use a knife, how to brown meat and become independent while following a recipe! 

Kids not interested in learning something new?  The best way to get a kid interested is by sitting down yourself and delving into a class. Show excitement and they’ll want to join in!

Managing Summer Screens for ADHD Kids and Teens

This is a new section to this post because screens are becoming an even bigger issue for my ADHD teens. 

Screentime is a hot topic for me – in fact, I have three other posts about ADHD Kids and screens, HERE and HERE and a BIG ONE HERE.

No longer can I just declare ,”There will be no screens today!”

There has to be a conversation where everyone’s needs are expressed and HEARD. 

Your child gets to have say in what’s important to him and you get to voice your concerns.

This may happen over several sittings – don’t expect it to be perfect the first go around. 

Be sure to include these ideas in your conversation:

First – not all screen time is created equal.

There are plenty of “better” options for being on a screen. 

  • We love connecting as a family over movies. 
  •  Zoom meetings with friends and family. 
  • Online classes like Outschool, or learning a skill like Typing.
  • Relevant YouTube Videos to learn a skill or research a topic.
  • Creating stop motion movies, editing videos, etc.

I allow more time for social, creative or educational screens than I do gaming.

It’s okay to enforce a time limit

If I did not enforce a limit, my kids would be on screens for 12 hours a day, literally. 

Kids need limits – especially ADHD teens who loose track of time and often have a very skewed view of time …

And get addicted quite quickly to a screen. 

We’ve agreed on no more than 90 minutes of video game playing a day. Those limits expand a bit when there are social opportunities, like playing with friends in person or talking via headphones to friends playing elsewhere.

The games they play are monitored.  I allow only games that are rated e10+ or teen.  I have seen some of the games that are for older teens and adults and I am shocked by some of their content. 

Share some rules as a family

It is vital for all family  members to abide by screen time rules.  Kids are smart and will wonder why you get to have your phone at the table if they can’t. 

Rules like these seem doable as a family:

  • No screens at the table for mealtimes.
  • All screens away an hour (or two!) before bed. Even better – to a central charging station. 
  • No phones out at restaurants.
  • No phones out in the car. (definitely front seat passengers)
  • Limited(or no)engagement on  social media sites
  • No screens in bedrooms. 

Screentime rules will vary from kid to kid

There are no absolutes when it comes to screentime across the board.  How a kid reacts to being on a screen will vary.  My kids turn into zombies, some kids are calmed by screens. 

It’s important to observe your own kid and see how they react.  We don’t start any video gaming until 4 pm.  If we started earlier, my kids would not be able to rouse themselves back to another activity. 

I know this because I observe my kids before, during, and after being on all sorts of screens.

Prioritize Connection over Screens

When kids are spending too much time on a screen, it’s usually at the expense of family connection time. 

Kids holed up in their rooms for hours, day after day, with little to no interaction with their family is not what we’re aiming for. 

Make sure you are planning and prioritizing family connection time to happen as often as possible. Do that first. 

Related:  Monitoring Smart Phone for ADHD Kids

Summertime = Downtime

I am not a cruise director, so I stock up on things that promote open-ended play and creative time. It’s good for kids to be bored and come up with their own plan. 

This summer there might just be more downtime than we want!  So I am preparing the house to make sure I have supplies that encourage creative play:

  • Our yard has one section that is a big dirt pile. My kids spend lots of time digging and building forts, etc. Even at 12 and 14, they still love doing this! We have some pallets and pavers and they build all sort of structures. 
  • We have lots of art supplies.  (Use that link to grab my huge list of supplies, if you haven’t already.) The supplies are readily available on a few shelves when inspiration strikes.
  • Blocks, legos, Kapla Blocks, and Magna Tiles are available at all times.
  • We visit the library weekly to make sure we have enough to read-ours is open for curbside pick up. My boys are voracious readers and can go thru 5 or 6 books a week.

Related : Have you seen my huge post about Activities for ADHD Boys ??

Play to their strengths

We often overlook our ADHD kids’ strengths as we try to accommodate and “fix” their deficits. Without the stress of school, homework or a heavy sports schedule, its easier to spend time enhancing your kids’ super powers.

That might look like more trips to the library for a voracious reader. an online art class for the doodler, lots of hikes for the nature lover or stocking up on wood scraps and nails for the builder.

Not quite sure what their strengths are? Ask them about the one thing they’d like to do this summer and go from there. Or take time to explore a few new things and see what excites them.

Now that there are a plethora of distance learning options, we’ll explore a few online sites to find something to do this summer.  I know it will add to their screen time, but I am okay with screens when my kids are creating and just not consuming.  We like: 

  • Outschool – Outschool has a huge variety of classes ranging from an hour to 12 week long classes. My son is taking a programming class that he loves! 
  • Typingclub – a great way to get some keyboarding skills. My son has dysgraphia and hates to write, so learning good typing skills is so helpful. 
  • Udemy – My son and I are taking a drawing class on here together. It’s a fun excuse to sit down together and we usually end up having a nice conversation in the process.
  • Kids Cook Real Food – Katie Kimball, author of my favorite cookbooks of all time, has an online class with 45 videos, plus loads of resources, teaching kids how to cook real food. We’re taking the class this summer because my kids have been showing an interest in cooking and I am all for teaching them a valuable life skill that will take some of the cooking load off my hands. (I’m so excited about this that I have mentioned it twice in this article!)

Work ( a little ) on their deficits

Summer is a great time to take a step back and work on something that your child has found challenging during the school year.  I cover some of these things in ” Mommy School” which happens on a regular basis. (the key is regular so there is less whining about it.)

I try to make it fun, and light and not too forced. Although, inevitably, I miss the boat on that sometimes. It’s not all rainbows and unicorns when we work on the stuff that’s hard.

But, come August, I am so glad that I put up with the moans and groans. The transition to school is so much easier if we’ve kept on the basics.

Keep a big family calendar

We love our calendar so much during the school year, it’s a no brainer to keep it up during the summer, as well.

Just like during the school year, our Sundays nights always are kept open for sometime to talk about the upcoming week. Each family member’s schedule is written on our big wipe board calendar for all to see. We go over it so there are no surprises for anyone. It’s a good way to mentally prepare for the week ahead.

We’ll plan a few ideas each week from our bucket list and hopefully be able to add more as the country begins to open up. 

Remember it’s all about connection.

I do feel like a big weight has been taken off my shoulders now that I have just a few things in place.  By putting a little routine and rhythm into our days we are freed up to enjoy all those wonderful opportunities to connect with our kids.

After all, isn’t that what it’s all about?

I love comments! Please add any ideas that have worked for you.

If you need some ideas for some summer fun check this, this , and this!

Want more on ADHD?

You might find these helpful:

Read about how amazing a weighted blanket is for sleep, here.

WE have a great bedtime routine. Read about it here.

Want more ADHD diet help? Here’s how we do breakfast.

Have a reluctant reader with ADHD? Here’s how to help.

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  1. Thank you for your help.

  2. Marisol Fowler says:

    Thank you for posting so much information. I am in search of building a routine with my son. You gave wonderful ideas on how to set up a routine. I will be using your format. Thank you so much.

  3. Blessed Mom says:

    Thanks for this much needed post. My adopted, ADHD and RAD/ODD has become a teenager who knows everything and does not like my teaching her the proper ways to do tasks. I also (try my best to) live by routines. We are already signed up for #LifeSkills! I have so many of your posts saved or even printed out.

    1. Suzi! Thank you so much! I, too, have a teenager who seems to know everything and has gotten a job! It’s so awesome because he is learning from someone else – He can’t put up a fuss when asked to clean the bathrooms at work! : ) Working or volunteering outside the home can be a great thing!